Dealing With Grief

Hey there,

Not all wounds are meant to heal, and that is okay. 

Not all wounds will heal with time, and that is okay.

You are allowed to feel emotions. In fact, you should embrace them as they’re what make you human. But understand that you are not your emotions. They do not control you, and they do not dictate the rest of your life. 

It is okay to feel sadness. If you truly loved that person you will feel a surge of emotions. Don’t be scared. As much as you would like to control it, pain is something inevitable. So feel those emotions and acknowledge that they exist. Because if you take your sorrow and hide it, it’s simply just going to stay there, constantly overshadowing your mind. 

It is not something you just choose to move on from. Because when dealing with the loss of a loved one, you do not move on from grief, but instead you move forward with it.

Simply put, the pain of loss is not like any physical injury that heals over time. It is a scar that remains within you. Because it isn’t only about coping with loss, but also coping with change, and that is a life-long process. 

The process of grieving is one of many complexities. The grieving process has no right or wrong, with each person dealing with grief in their own unique way. 

So it’s okay to deal with pain in your own way, and at your own pace. There will be times where you’ll want some space for yourself and that’s okay, but don’t forget to do things that make you happy. 

Throughout it, you may lose sense of life as you once knew it. Things such as hope, purpose, and joy may at times seem impossible to come across again, and the night time will feel seemingly infinite. 

Although not everyone will understand exactly what you’re going through, you are not alone. Reach out to people you are comfortable with speaking to, whether that be friends, family, or a professional. 

Remember that it is okay to have ups and downs through the grieving process. Some days will feel more painful than others, but it is only natural to experience a rugged journey. When you experience those moments of pain, understand that they are not moments of weakness. You have strength, and you have courage that no one can take away from you, even if you don’t realize it at that moment. 

Grief isn’t just a void. Grief will mix in with so many other emotions, because the memories of what once was will never fade away. Those emotions you felt within those memories will begin to mix with grief. But this doesn’t mean that you should stay in a state of defeat. Like I mentioned earlier, you are not your emotions. And yes, time doesn’t heal all wounds but continuing to live through life will help to manage those wounds just that much more. Because grief is not something that you overcome, it is something that you learn to live with.

It will be a rollercoaster of emotions, but soon you will find that after every dense cloud with heavy rain and lightning strikes, you will find that there will always be serenity after the storm. But storms will continue forming again after a while, and that is okay. Because there is a painful beauty that is found through the rain, that through every mud puddle you’re faced with, a newer you is crossing it each time with the same thoughts as the first time. Continuously moving forward through it like pages from a book, and never forgetting about the memories like events from a chapter. Because you won’t get to move on from grief. Instead you’ll learn to live and move forward with it. 

You are not alone in this journey. 

And just because the sky feels pointless at times, life is still beautiful.

Continue putting your best foot forward. It’s okay if some days you have more energy than others. Off days will occur, but continue staying strong.

Have a great day.